2007年11月7日 星期三
Have you ever loved someone for a long time and you never changed your mind? Do you believe forever love? What the answer for me is not. Because I don't believe we can love one forever and get the happiness what we want. For example, you love your boyfriend very much and you are dreaming that you will be married in the future, however, you have a little fight and he won't love you anymore, how will you feel? Maybe you will say "Ha" but you are not really laughing. You love sombody with your whole heart, but are you sure that you will get the same result? Love can be easy but also can be heartborken, do you prepare well to love?
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How long is "a long time"? Is it possible to "change your mind" about loving someone? I knows it's possible to change your mind about an opinion or a decision.
Senseless question because of a missing word and the wrong word choice: "Do you believe forever love?" should be "Do you believe in eternal love?" No, not until it happens. What is the point of believing or not believing in things that cannot be proved true or false? What is the point of believing or not believing in things that may be different for different people?
"What the answer for me is not." This is nonsense. Maybe you mean to say "I don't"?
"Because I don't believe we can love one forever and get the happiness what we want." How many times do I have to say that you must not begin sentences with reasons like this? Just don't do it unless the sentence has an independent clause in addition to this "because"-dependent clause. And don't speak for "we" or "us"; speak only for yourself. "I don't believe that I can love only one man forever and get the happiness I want".
"For example, if you..." That "if" is necessary. I would realize that my girlfriend (in my case) had been a liar for as long as she had been telling me that she loved me. People don't stop loving other people just because they have a fight. Perhaps the fight makes one or both of you realize that you are not suited to each other and that you both made a mistake when you chose each other. That's not the same as no longer loving someone.
There's also a difference between the expression "I love X" [X = a person] and "I'm in love with X". I love my parents and my wife and my son and my dog, but all in different ways. I'm not in love with my parents or my dog, for example. And maybe the being-in-love-with-someone stage of feeling lasts only a little while for some people; maybe that's just lust as well as caring about someone. I don't know. I think it's different for everyone.
As with all voluntary relationships between people, I want my relationship with my lover to be as equal as possible, but it seems to me that it's usually the case that X loves Y more than Y loves X, or vice versa. Life is unfair and unequal most of the time.
Love cannot be "heartbroken". Only a person can be heartbroken. Love can be "heartbreaking", however. No risk, no profit; no pain, no gain. Love is never easy. It just seems that way when things go well. But when they go well, one is always afraid that they will soon stop going well, so that makes love dangerous.
No one is well prepared for the kinds of things that happen in love relationships, I think. Both parties want too much and expect too much from the other. One or both will too often be disappointed and feel let down.
These are my own feelings and opinions, not something that I know is true for everyone. Life and love and feelings and values are different for each of us. Just as we are physiologically different -- the 1% difference in all our chromosomes is enough to distinguish each one of us from every other, and the major differences in life experience account for all the other differences between us all -- so are we emotionally and otherwise mentally different.
I'm going to guess that you recently had a fight with your boyfriend and he broke up with you. I'm sorry if that's true, but it happens all the time. That doesn't make the pain easier to bear, I know, but it's something to consider.
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